Life Handed Me Lemons, So I Made Lemonade!!

We have finally arrived to the month of December!! 2020 has pretty much felt like a twilight zone. It has been probably one of the most toughest years that many of us has experienced. I don’t think anyone is exempt from the hardships of 2020 and if you feel like you are then KUDOS to YOU!! However, for the rest of us who may have felt the pressure and stress of this year I am right there with you and trust me you are not alone. Although, 2020 has brought its share of challenges, tears, and hardships it has also brought its share of lessons, blessings, and success. I know you are probably saying how can tears, lessons, and blessings be used simultaneous in the same sentence. Well, it is easy when you decide to take the lemons that you were given and make lemonade.

During our last Sundae Sunday, Khristian and I discussed how we have turned our lemons into lemonade. The pandemic has been just as hard on her just as it has been on me. I don’t believe anyone thought that we would be in the same place we were 8 months ago. We cannot take for granted that our children’s brains has fully processed what has happened in the last 8 months. Yet, we can show our girls how to take those lemons and make the best lemonade EVER!! As a mom it is up to us to show our girls how to show up during hard times. We are our girls first example of ” We Can Do Hard Things”!! That is not just a saying but that is a fact! Black women are known to come through, squeeze their lemons, and make some bomb lemonade. So many powerful women has come before us and has shown us that we are fierce and that we can pretty much do anything that we put our minds to. Yes, this pandemic has been hard. Yes, we have had to adjust to a new way of doing things. And yes, we have had to overcome some major challenges, but through it all we have yet to give up!! Oh, and trust we will NOT not give up.

While talking to Khristian about her lemons, we have made a choice to make lemonade out of the lemons that we have been given this year. We acknowledged that 2020 has pretty much been a difficult year for our family as well as for our friends. Listening to her perspective of 2020 allowed me the opportunity to reshape and reframe her view and mindset of 2020. No, we cannot change the challenges that has taken place this year but what we can change is how we respond to the challenges that have taken place. Losing my grandfather this year was a pretty huge blow to my family and I. As I mentioned in my previous blog post, sometimes the grief can be very overwhelming, yet I have chosen to focus on the countless memories that I have of him. Homeschooling is another challenge or lemon that this year has brought us. Virtual learning has stretched many of us completely out of our comfort zones. Relearning 3rd grade math was definitely not my ideal way of spending my 8 hour work day; yet I am doing it and she’s actually passing math. There are so many lemons that I can identify; however, I am choosing to take those bitter lemons and turn them into some good ol’ pink lemonade and have people wondering how I did it. We must teach our children that although the obvious is evident we have to make the decision to CHANGE our mindset. Trust me I know it is hard to do and it often takes practice but if you want to stay mentally strong for yourself and your family, you are going to have to change your mindset.

Our mind will do exactly what we tell it to do. If we choose to turn our lemons into pink lemonade and have people wondering how we did it than that is exactly what we will do. If we limit ourselves to only thinking about the negative things that has happened this year then we will surely miss out on the beauty of the things that has taken place this year. Sometimes the most bitter lemons make the best lemonade. Remember it is all about our mindset and the way we choose to embrace our lemons. Now go and make some pink lemonade!!

Best,

Alexia